the questions we ask you — in your own words
For you · held in confidence
Take your time with this. Answer what feels true, and skip anything you’d rather not — nothing here is shared, and none of it is ever public. There are no wrong answers; the first thing that comes is usually the truest. When you reach the end, tap send and your reading is on its way.
This is a soul reading, offered for meaning and dignity. It is not therapy, diagnosis, or treatment, and it is not a substitute for professional or crisis support. Nothing here is a diagnosis, and none of it says anything about who you are. You never have to be further along than you are to be worthy of support.
You do not have to say what happened. You do not have to give your name. You can ask one question and nothing more. You can hang up. Not having the words is not a reason to wait — the people who answer these lines have never once needed you to find them first.
If one line does not answer, try the next. Helplines are underfunded and they do go quiet — that is never a sign that no one is there for you. It only means try another door, and there is always another door.
And one thing about the body. This reading treats your body as something that carries meaning, and it does. But exhaustion, restless nights, a tightness in the chest — those are also how ordinary things speak: the thyroid, the iron in your blood, the way you breathe at night. Let a doctor look at those too. Not instead of anything you have read here. Alongside it.
The real details, so the reading is built on your actual chart and numbers. Your name at birth, the name you carry now, and the name you’d like to be called all shape it — and it will call you by that last one throughout. A made-up name or date makes it inaccurate, so these are needed. Everything is held privately, disconnected from anything public.
If you don’t know it, your reading is written from everything else, and it simply will not claim the parts that need the hour.
This round is about your situation as it actually is today — not to fix or judge it, only so the reading meets you where you truly are. The most exposing questions here are yours to skip: nothing is ever shared, and none of it names him. Answer what you can; leave what you can’t.
Which of these comes closest to your situation? (skip if you’d rather) (optional · select one)
Where are you with it? (recommended · select one or more)
How long has this been going on? (recommended · select one)
When you think about leaving, what holds you back? (tick what resonates) (recommended · select one or more)
Does anyone else know about this relationship? (tick what resonates) (recommended · select one or more)
Think about the people who shaped you most — your affair partner, a significant past partner, your father, your mother, and one more who mattered. For each, name three traits you admired or appreciated, and three you found difficult or challenging — in your own words. You’re not scoring anyone; you’re introducing us to the people who have played a meaningful role in your life.
Need a nudge? A few words others have reached for — though your own are always better, so treat this only as a spark, not a list to pick from: warm, kind, generous, affectionate, playful, attentive, present, reliable, steady, patient, protective, encouraging, calm, honest, emotionally available — distant, critical, absent, emotionally unavailable, controlling, dominant, dismissive, withdrawn, self-focused, hard to please, quick to anger, jealous, secretive, unpredictable, hot-and-cold, inconsistent, needs admiration.
Your affair partner
A significant past partner
Your father
Your mother
Someone else who shaped you (name them, if you like)
The first woman you ever watched be a woman was your mother. This round is about her, and about the world you grew up inside — not to blame anyone, only to understand where you come from. Answer gently, and without judgment.
Was your mother any of these? (tick what fits) (recommended · select one or more)
And growing up, when you were crying, what usually happened? (recommended · select one or more)
When you needed her, you most often… (tick what resonates) (recommended · select one or more)
Growing up, the unspoken message about what a woman should be was… (tick what resonates) (recommended · select one or more)
A few small things — tick what’s true of you. (recommended · select one or more)
The body keeps the score before the mind admits it — and it’s where a great deal of this lives.
And sometimes, under stress… (recommended · select one or more)
And when discomfort builds up… (recommended · select one or more)
When something is left unresolved — a conflict that never repairs, a question that never gets answered — the feeling… (tick what resonates) (recommended · select one or more)
When you feel hurt, disappointed, uncertain, misunderstood, rejected, or afraid of losing someone you love — what do you naturally find yourself doing? These come in a few flavors; tick what feels honest in each.
Tick only what genuinely resonates. There is no need to find something in every list — an empty one tells us something true as well.
In the moment, I might… (recommended · select one or more)
Or I might… (recommended · select one or more)
Inside, I might… (recommended · select one or more)
My mind might… (recommended · select one or more)
Or I might pull the other way… (recommended · select one or more)
During a conflict — opposing decisions, opposing opinions, or a conversation that never quite leads to repair — which of these feels closest? (tick what resonates) (recommended · select one or more)
And afterwards, I’m usually left feeling… (recommended · select one or more)
When someone asks “what would you like?” — what happens inside you? (tick what resonates) (recommended · select one or more)
Do any of these feel familiar? (recommended · select one or more)
Which feels easier? (a) — (recommended · select one)
Which feels easier? (b) — (recommended · select one)
The last round reaches for what sits underneath it all — the beliefs about love and about yourself you may never have said out loud, and the one thing you’d most want this reading to answer. The written lines are yours to fill or skip; the first thing that comes is usually the truest.
Finish these without overthinking — the first thing that comes. (all optional)
And a few about how you feel — fill any that fit.
When life feels difficult, I tend to believe… (recommended · select one or more)
Tap the button below and your reading is on its way. It is composed from what you’ve written here, and it arrives by email — usually within twenty minutes or so. You don’t need to do anything else.
Readings are composed using the Soul Blueprint method, created by Shams-Tabriz.