An Open Letter to ‘The Other Woman’ Who Is Done Getting Treated Like An Option In An Extra-marital Affair.

Firstly, you are not a bad person.

Secondly, this life-shattering affair can make you feel ashamed and guilty about a lot of things..

There could be so many other things running inside your head right now 

but, 

just know this –

This affair is not the end of the road.

You're NOT a homewrecker.

You just made a mistake of chasing an unhealthy illusion of love...

Being a mistress is hard,

Going through all of this alone is harder..

And if you’re AGITATED and CONFUSED about whether to leave or stay in this relationship,

If you feel like you have nobody to share your pain and confusion without getting judged,

You’re right. Because people WILL judge women like us.

I know because…

A couple of years back, I made the same mistakes as you…

Hi, I’m Kate!

And a few years back, I was at the receiving end of all the flak you’re facing right now.

I was nose-deep living your story and drowning in shame and guilt.

I had got myself into an affair with a married man. He was a father of two children. He was my boss.. on a farm in midland Australia.

For 6 long years into this relationship, I had told no one about it because – I hated myself for getting into this affair!

I kept telling myself that this affair was my biggest mistake because I was choking in distress, pain and confusion. I felt chained inside my own body.

And when I wanted to share how I was feeling — there was nobody I could depend on.

There was nobody I could rely on and share my feelings with — without getting judged.

Until, I figured out how to unchain myself from this emotional slaughter, after years of carrying this burdening secret inside my heart..

I had to learn how to believe in myself again and stand up for what I didn’t believe in.

I had to learn how to say NO to things that felt wrong.

I had to learn how to gather the courage to accept my mistakes and promise myself to not repeat them,

And hurt the others who are not even responsible.

I admit. All this wasn’t easy.

It took me years of – 

Inner work,

Healing,

Self-love,

Emotional Strengthening,

Belief-conditioning,

Building Focus,

Achieving Clarity,

Finding meaning,

And a lot of unlearning to get where I’m at now.

But was it worth it?

Heck yeah! 

Because, now, I’m thriving!

In my new job,

In my new life,

In my new – self. 

And now, I am teaching women like you how to:

Pull yourself out of this disturbing pain and live a fully free life

By learning how to:

Because I don’t want you or ANY other woman to go through the heart-wrenching pain I did – in silence, guilt, shame and confusion

And that’s why, I’m inviting you to seek the support you deserve.

And put a stop to your suffering.

Where,

Women in extra-marital affairs finally figure out how to put an end to their pain and agony,

And live a fully free life..

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Rachel B

Head of Sales , IBC Group

This works because you get:

A private, safe space to share how you feel, without getting judged, misunderstood or having to go through this painful phase of suffering all alone. A community who gets you, uplifts you and cheers for you in your journey to become the best version of you

Me - An experienced Affair Recovery Coach who knows how to pull you out of your pain and confusion and help you build a life you want, claim the respect you deserve without compromising your self-worth, respect and dignity

The tools to help you find clarity and direction without feeling torn between love, morals and your emotional well-being

Weekly Live Group Support Calls where you can ask me specific questions, discuss if you are stuck, share your experience, progress and wins with your tribe so that you receive the emotional support you need and get cheered on - just for being you.

Monthly Soul Stretches - Change requires exercise right? Each month you’ll get a challenge to help you shift your focus and take consistent action so that you step into your true power with full belief and without feeling overwhelmed or stressed

Monthly Guest Expert Sessions - Each month, you’ll get access to transformational guest experts with profound experience and skill sets in the personal development field where they’ll share their most powerful tools and systems with you so that you thoroughly enjoy the process of empowering yourself

BONUS:

Book Club Day: When I was struggling with loneliness as a mistress, I benefited immensely from a few mainstream books. It helped me gain the clarity I seeked, instilled hope and broadened my perspective on what I was going through. Each month, you’ll receive an email with 3 journal prompts and ‘Recommended Recovery Reads’ to learn and reflect on your journey towards building a life you’ll love.

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Rachel B

Head of Sales , IBC Group

Reclaim your power and gain back the love and respect you’ve always had before this affair happened

Join The Thrive Tribe >>

You’ll be supported with:The Thrive TribeThe Thrive Tribe + Bi-Monthly 1:1 Calls

Direct access to an experienced Affair Recovery Coach (Kate) to help you strengthen your mindset to get through this painful phase without the suffering and suffocation
  

Private, safe, non-judgmental community of like-minded, supportive tribe who get you, understand you and cheer for you throughout your transformational journey
  

Weekly Live Group Support Calls where you share your experience, progress and wins with your coach & tribe so that you receive the emotional support you need during this difficult phase
  
Immediate access to tools and resources to help you find clarity and direction without feeling torn between love, morals and your emotional well-being  

Monthly Soul Stretches – Monthly challenges to help you shift your focus and take consistent action so that you step into your power with full belief and without feeling overwhelmed or stressed
  

Monthly Guest Expert Sessions – Each month, you’ll get access to transformational guest experts with profound experience and skill sets in the personal development field where they’ll share their most powerful tools and systems with you so that you thoroughly enjoy the process of empowering yourself
  
Bi-Monthly 1:1 Mindset Mastery Meets so that you get my undivided attention and time + NLP   
Coaching sessions for a deeper, long-lasting transformation  
Email Support for 1:1 Clients so that you can clarify doubts or ask follow up questions or seek support after our 1:1 intensive coaching sessions  
Your Investment$27/month$97/month

If you’ve been longing to get your life back and start feeling whole again, this is your chance to take charge of your life...

You want to join but if you're worried about your privacy..

You’re not alone. 

So, here you go ->

I want you to hang out with women who know how to sit down and reason when they face challenges. This is such a good place to meet such wonderful women because there are women with high-values and standards who have successfully overcome challenges. And you get to relate and learn from their journey to success.

There’s something gratifying about releasing your pain and trauma in words.

There’s something about speaking your heart out to someone who:

  • Will listen to you patiently
  • Won’t judge you
  • Will accept you for who you are

That’s exactly what you’ll experience inside the Time to Thrive Tribe

It’s a tribe of women like you and me -- recovered, recovering from past affairs

This program is not for you if you are:

  • In an affair just for the sex
  • Not really committed or don’t really care about this relationship
  • Not emotionally invested in this relationship
  • Happy being just a fuck buddy to your affair partner
  • In this relationship for his money and to meet your materialistic needs
  • Chasing rich men just for fun

This program is perfect for you if:

  • You judge yourself, feel shame and guilt and you don’t know how to forgive yourself
  • This double life is a secret and you’re doing it alone and if you have no one to talk to
  • You feel torn between staying and ending this affair
  • You’ve tried leaving your affair partner but keep going back to him
  • You’re waiting for him to leave his wife but you know that’s not happening
  • You’re confused and you don’t even know what you want out of this relationship
  • You’re confused about your life goals and lack of direction
  • You constantly feel drained and unfulfilled
  • You want to attract healthy men into your life and start dating the right men and find your soulmate who adores you, gives his 100% and treats you like his queen
  • You fear leaving him because he is your boss
  • You fear leaving your job because of him
  • You’re worried about losing the financial benefits/security that comes with being in a relationship with him

 

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Rachel B

Head of Sales , IBC Group